Women go to other women for support. That’s what makes our friendships so great.
“Birds of a feather flock together.”
But sometimes, as we flock to what feels comfortable and familiar, we support behaviours and thoughts that are not always productive. When your girlfriend just broke things off with her dude, your first reaction is to support her side of things. While this may make for a good friend, it doesn’t keep us as honest as we could be.
”Yeah, he couldn’t handle you girl!”
But what if it was that he didn’t want to handle what she was presenting? What if it was really HER and not him?
Friends who confide in me can always look forward to me keeping it real. I hate to sugarcoat situations and pretend that I agree with you, when I sure don’t. I say the things you don’t want to hear, but need to hear. I say ‘no’ to the things you want me to nod and say ‘yes’ to. And I do this only because I’d want the same truthful advice from my friends when I’m dealing with issues.
I don’t for one second claim to have all the answers — some friends have problems that make me scratch my head. Sometimes, I really DON’T know what to tell them regarding their situation. But if I think they’re making stupid decisions, I’ll make it clear.
If you co-sign with this one, let me know!
*originally posted on MzSimons blog, June 2010